An extremely small number of people, however, completely disregard the court orders. Intent on causing harm, they are undeterred by the possible punishments of violating the orders. These people are extremely dangerous. Thankfully, they are also extremely rare, but you must be prepared for the possibility that the person from whom you need protection will not be stopped by a court order to stay away from you. You must take reasonable precautions to protect yourself. If you believe that the person against whom you seek protection might violate the restraining order and place you in physical danger, you must utilize self-defense techniques and common sense to protect yourself. Contact your local Domestic Violence agency or coalition for information on how to obtain an advocate to walk you through the steps needed to ensure your safety and negotiate the legal system. Click here for more information.
Some important ways you can protect yourself:
- keep a certified copy of your order with you at all times
- change your burglar alarm code
- change the locks on your home
- carry pepper spray or Mace (if legal in your state)
- never walk to your car alone
- never walk anywhere in the dark alone
- check the interior of your car with a flashlight or natural light before getting in
- alert your neighbors and local police of the situation
- find safe shelter, such as an abused women’s shelter, if you still feel in danger
- call the police every time the order is violated, no matter how small the violation.
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Excerpted from Your Divorce Advisor: A Lawyer and a Psychologist Guide You Through the Legal and Emotional Landscape of Divorce (Simon & Schuster/Fireside 2001). For more information: http://www.yourdivorceadvisor.com/.
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